7 ways to teach little kids about body safety before they can talk
Families across Australia were shaken after a Four Corners report exposed abuse cases in early childhood centres. The program revealed about 150 childcare workers had been convicted, charged, or accused of sexual misconduct.
While reforms are needed in the childcare sector, parents still ask an important question: what can we do at home to protect our children?
Even before speech develops, children can learn about safety and autonomy. Psychologist Jean Piaget’s research shows that babies under two understand language and emotional cues. Parents can start teaching body safety early by using clear words, respecting signals, and modelling trust.
Here are seven ways to begin.
1. Use the correct body words
Avoid nicknames for private parts. Use anatomical terms just as you would for “nose” or “hands.” This helps reduce shame and allows children to describe their experiences clearly if needed.
2. Narrate your actions
During nappy changes, describe what you are doing step by step.
Example: “We need to change your nappy. Now I’m taking off your pants. We only touch your bottom to clean it.”
This shows what safe and normal care looks like.
3. Teach consent through play
Turn tickling or playful touch into a consent lesson. Ask, “Would you like to go to Tickletown?” If your child smiles or signals yes, continue. If they frown or turn away, stop. This helps them understand choice and boundaries.
4. Respect body language
Babies often express discomfort by wriggling, arching their back, or turning away. Respect those cues. Say, “You don’t want to be held? That’s okay. Your body belongs to you.” This builds confidence and autonomy.
5. Never force affection
Avoid pressuring children to hug or kiss relatives. Forcing contact, even with loved ones, can confuse boundaries. Allow them to choose how they greet others.
6. Explain necessary touch
When a child resists a bath or nappy change, stay calm and explain why it’s needed.
Example: “We’re washing off the sand from the park. Let’s clean your feet.”
This distinction helps them understand safe touch versus unsafe touch.
7. Watch for nonverbal distress
Preverbal children often show distress through actions. Warning signs may include tantrums, sudden fear of certain people, loss of appetite, genital pain, or sleep regression. Observing these signals helps detect possible abuse early.
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